I'm too Sensitive

[GSR]

This past year, I've become too sensitive. I'm too attached to the outcome, and way too reactive to if a girl does something I dont like. I overanalyze things as well. Dating has just become something thats hurtful and painful for me. Its no longer fun. Maybe thats why I havent been hearing from any of my dates. Not One of Them.

The worst thing is, I'm sure for some of you guys its been great. But I'm beginning to feel like I'm not made for this, I'm way too attached to the outcome and I'm way too sensitive. If you guys know of a way to get that handled let me know.

[Status]

When ever I'm sucking, I stop, then I start being Awesome. Problem solved.

Seriously, one of the more important things about pickup is not giving a fuck. You need a confidence boost? Go direct. Women love it and generally react well. Also, if you're not getting callbacks or w/e, without more info, I'd have to say you're most likely coming off very needy - and that's a problem. Just Enjoy shit.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-diB65scQU

Give that song a couple listens

[S D]

you are going through a pain period and after the pain period things will go smoother. with me
it went from being able to open anyone,
to getting phone numbers that always flaked,
to getting phone numbers and makeouts but with no text response the next day,
to getting phone numbers with a response but couldn't get a date or meetup
to getting dates, going home with them with no sex,
to getting dates with sex

you are frustrated we understand but no one said it would be easy.

[Ice]

This past year, I've become too sensitive. I'm too attached to the outcome, and way too reactive to if a girl does something I dont like. I overanalyze things as well. Dating has just become something thats hurtful and painful for me. Its no longer fun. Maybe thats why I havent been hearing from any of my dates. Not One of Them.

The worst thing is, I'm sure for some of you guys its been great. But I'm beginning to feel like I'm not made for this, I'm way too attached to the outcome and I'm way too sensitive. If you guys know of a way to get that handled let me know.

First thing is, know that what you have just asked/said is normal for where you are at right now. You are asking the right questions - and you have a lot of growth ahead of you. Would invite you to dig deeper. Also, recognize the fact that you posting and asking for help takes balls, and shows that you want to continue in this.





All of what you said is entirely inner-game related - so would invite you to start working on your inner-game first. Start looking inside out. Check out resources for inner game.




I wrote up some questions here and deleted them because I wasn't sure where you were at. pm me if you'd like a copy. note: I will ask you to follow up with me on what it's been like for you after you've reflected on these questions.

[snowproof]

Meditate brother! It helps with pimping and you'll be able to be in the moment a lot more and less attached to an outcome.

[JoeBlack]

Look at it like working out, people give up because they see no results..but for those WHO know they need to put the work in for 2-3 months, and stay focused and dedicated, end up with a sick physic..just listen to what these guy's say..your not going to learn this shit over night, trial and error..keep your head up, and keep opening, eventually it'll come natural to you, where you'll see your just having a fun, interesting conversation.-JB

[Science]

Good points already.

But sounds like you're putting too much meaning on this part of your life. If a girl likes you, you feel good. If she doesn't, you feel like shit. You're letting others opinions dictate how you feel.

With me, I lead a fun, interesting life with a variety of friends, family and meeting new people. If I open a girl and she's not into me, I genuinely don't give a fuck. I like myself above anyone elses opinion of me, it doesn't bother me at all.

What anyone thinks of you is not your business.

So build a life that makes you happy, a life where you grow in every way everyday. A life people are envious of and want to become a part of. Become self sufficient, become a leader. Figure out what makes you happy and pursue that. If nobody wants to go with you initially, go on your own and meet new people.

When you've developed a balanced lifestyle, you won't need others to validate you because you know you're happy with yourself. Ironically, this will make you more attractive and you'll be pulling all kinds of cool people into your life.

But the key is to live life on your own terms.

[Science]

And don't compromise yourself.

Some girls may not go for what you're looking for. No problem. But figure out what YOU want and be upfront about it. There are so many girls out there looking for a strong guy with a life purpose it's RIDICULOUS.

So first steps, write down all the things that make you happiest/bring you joy, and start doing them. Invite friends etc, and start to build a lifestyle. Get the momentum going.

Personally i'm looking at getting into mountain biking. I used to ride and do jumps etc as a kid, but would love to get a bike, backpack and go find some trails and go camping for the weekend.

May even go to some theatre shows.

Sky diving is on my list.

Natural history museum in London.

Plus the usual nightlife stuff.

You know how attractive that kinda lifestlye is? Posting cool pics like that on Facebook etc?

Life is short bro, do whatever the fuck you want.

[GSR]

Thank you @Science thats what I'm working on the past couple days. Quit my retail job which was making me miserable. Have another job lined up thanks to God.
I am realigning my values. Because having sex was always a huge guilt thing for me it never felt like a big deal.
I want to be happy, and do what makes me happy. Videography and Digital Marketing is what my heart desires to do. Right now. Build a circle of friends that are on that focus as well as encouraging to me.
Attract women to that lifestyle.