Dealing with flakes!

[GSR]

What's a good way to handle flakes like this. I just texted thi girl to hang out tonight but she flaked becaus of this what's a good response ?

I'm celebrating my new job she asked what's the job I told her is tell her if she came tonight her response was.
No I'll be at a brooklyn bar celebrating my friend's birthday. Sorry hun. So what's the new job?

Should I respond or change subject

[Rogue4Life]

Flaking means you set up a plan for a date at some previous time and she agrees to it....and then LATER she cancels or doesn't show up.

Do you mean she flaked, or do you mean she didn't agree to hang out with you?

Should I respond or change subject

Stop over-thinking. DHV yourself with the new job, just make sure you don't brag about it.

-Rogue

[Jay-T]

Ditto what rogue said. Not a flake, she simply had plans. Look at it this way, I assume you're going after high value women right? So being the high value guy that you are, would you drop everything to go hang out with someone new? Nope. Don't worry about this too much and try to plan a bit ahead.

[Whiz Kid]

Call a different woman or three

[GSR]

I always end up with High Value Women I guess, not necessarily me chasing. it just happens. But yeah I'll keep at it she really likes me, so I changed the subject, and then told her about the job.

[mlags26]

Try communicating with her from a different angle.

I would respond with: "I'd love to tell you but, I gotta get ready for my adventure tonight." Puts you back in control and then tomorrow after you had your awesome night, text her.."hey do you have a few minutes to talk on the phone before I'm busy the rest of the day(or insert some activity that DHVs like hiking, shopping, your new job, gym etc)? "

Talking on the phone vs texts is something that I haven't done yet but, I have a feeling it will limit the amount of flakes you have. Now you're giving that "hot guy from (wherever you met her) that has this new awesome job" a voice and a better emotional connection.

THe reason why I know this will improve our results is from sales. I could email 1,0000 people a day and barley get responses/sales. If I call the prospect/customer the results increase.

[lfthk1]

Just move on to the next girl. Don't get hung up about it....keep it moving and don't seem to available. Hit this chick up next week...

[Status]

Just move on to the next girl. Don't get hung up about it....keep it moving and don't seem to available. Hit this chick up next week...

This is right and wrong. A lot of guys on here have this idea that if a girl doesn't jump when you say how high - that it's next.

Sure, keep gaming other girls. But don't do it because she didnt' go out with you. Do it because that's what you'd normally do. You have to understand, and embrace, that you are your own person, an awesome person, and that no girl should really affect you unless she's earned the right and you've allowed her to. This should generally not happen often, and only after you've spent a considerable ammount of time with her, had sex with her, and decided this is what you want.

Also: You are the prize, and as such - you deserve a prize. A truely high value woman will be busy, and involved with a lot of activities. Respect that and understand that's what you're looking for.